Listen...NO ONE wants to face having an unhealable wound.
Even the IDEA that there are wounds that don’t heal is VERY provocative for a lot of us.
Especially when we realize that Chiron’s myth points out that it’s totally unfair – NONE OF THIS WAS HIS FAULT.
This means that Chiron can be a place of very particular helplessness, a sense of pain that we don’t understand, don’t feel we deserve, don’t know what we did to “create” or “attract”.
It’s extremely important to realize that this is not a place that rational thought operates very well, if at all.
Chiron is, above all, a place of FEELING, and trust me – these are NOT feelings that are created by our thoughts.
Our stories certainly shape the raw, primal, intense emotions that Chiron brings up. Deconstructing our stories is absolutely a necessary part of the process of learning to live better with Chiron.
But you cannot think your way through, around, or out of Chiron’s pain.
Here's the thing, though - EVERYONE has Chiron somewhere.
When we come face-to-face with this raw, poisoned injury in us, unfair and inescapable…
when we can learn to accept that THIS IS PART OF US, in all its yucky, painful messiness…
Our relationship with that wound begins to change.
To be clear – it never goes away.
And I’m not even talking about “you’ll always have the scar” – it is an OPEN WOUND that remains that way.
(If this is making you twitch, please know I understand – I don’t love it either.)
But while we don’t seem to be able to choose to get rid of the wound, or even get it down to a scar, we CAN choose how we let that wound become part of us…
or we fight it, reject it, cover it up, work around it, deny it, and all that good shit.
That latter stuff seems to work about as well as it ever does.
Sooner or later, the sky weather will activate your Chiron. Or you’ll fall in love or give birth to or go to work for someone who pokes you in that wound…and there it is. Right in your face.
As difficult as it is, learning to live WITH that wound – how to carry it – seems to be the only way to a different experience.
And when we can do that, one of the true gifts of Chiron can arise – the kind of compassion that isn’t from that floaty, amazing place of bliss and oneness where nothing hurts anymore, but from right down in the wound.
It’s the ability see someone else’s woundedness out of eyes that feel and accept and understand your own.
This might sound like trauma-bonding – the way people’s wounds get activated by other people’s wounds and it’s all just a gory mess.
That’s not what I mean.
It’s the experience of someone seeing that poisoned, ugly-feeling, shame-inducing place in us…and accepting it because they know their own. They don’t flare up or lash out, because they truly understand where that place of injury is in them and they’ve learned to carry it with skill and grace.
But they’re not “past it” or “through it” – that wound is right there, still a living part of them. And that lets them see it in us, not so much as a “healer” or “teacher” or “guide” but as a companion, another traveler on this wildly difficult path of being human.
If you’ve had that experience, you KNOW what changes when that happens. You KNOW what untwists in you, at least a little bit, when you are seen that way.
And probably, then, you’ve learned some about how to see OTHERS that way.
THAT is what Chiron makes possible, at its best.
Listen And Learn - Or Dive In Live With Me
The live Teaching Call is for everyone. I’ll lay out more about the mythic underpinning of this figure, the pragmatics of how I see it operate in human people, and some broad astrological categories that will help people locate themselves more specifically in terms of their own Chiron wounding.
Anyone can sign up for only the Teaching Call for $40 – it’s essentially unlimited. It’s recorded and there will also be a transcript, though that will take a few weeks to get out to everyone.
You can also bravely let yourself have a 15 minute conversation with me about YOUR specific Chiron, in YOUR chart. This is called a Practicum seat and it’s $85 (including the teaching call.)
15 minutes doesn’t sound like much. Believe me when I say that we can do A LOT in that time. You will absolutely need to be live for your Practicum, although you can get the recording for the teaching call, if that’s what works best.
There are only 21 seats total (7 per call, with 3 calls available) and as of Feb 21st, 5 are still available.
Chiron can sometimes be hard for people to see – we put a lot of protection around this part of us, for what I hope are obvious reasons. That means you might not recognize what I’m describing right away, and that’s OK.
I don’t automatically assume I’m right about this stuff, so if it doesn’t sound like you, it’s possible I’m off-base – and it’s also possible that you’ve just got enough protection around it that it’s not landing right in that moment (though it probably will later.)
I just ask that you be open to what I offer, even if it sounds weird or wrong or confusing at first.
So make sure that you can be live for your Practitioner call, and that you’re willing to discuss what might be some fairly raw stuff in front of the group (and have it recorded, though it will ONLY go to this group of folks.)
You never need to say anything you don’t want to – there’s no forcing, and I do my best to be very sensitive to people’s responses so I honor your capacity. But your willingness to do this is a great deal of what helps everyone else who gets to witness you.
In turn, please be willing to witness – it’s not going to get super gory, because I keep that contained. But Chiron wounding is raw for all of us.
Being willing to hold other people’s raw spots with compassion and spaciousness is a gift, and it’s a big part of the “medicine” of these group experiences. If you can, please plan to be on for the whole 2 hours of the call.